Should the best man in a wedding bring a date?
May 29, 2010
I’m the best man in my best friends wedding, but I don’t know if I should bring a date. The date I would bring wouldn’t know anyone at the wedding and would be sitting by herself.
This is up to the bride and groom only. Usually if guests have serious significant others, then they’re allowed dates. This will be indicated with "Your Name and Guest" on the invitation.
However, if the person does not have a serious significant other, and would just be bringing a date for the heck of it, then most brides and grooms wouldn’t put "and guest" on the invitation. Just because they don’t know this person, and they have to pay for their meal.
If our best man wasn’t in a serious relationship, we wouldn’t put "and guest" on the invite. He would know enough people there to mingle and not feel out of place. The guest would just extra, and honestly, we don’t want to pay for the meal if we don’t know the person.
But we’re having a smaller wedding with 70 people max.
13 Responses to “Should the best man in a wedding bring a date?”
ask the bride or groom if it’s ok. but is she doesn’t know anyone she might be uncomfortable and not enjoy it much.
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By Shayla K on May 30, 2010
This is a tricky situation. I would invite her to come with you when you go to get fitted for tuxes. She can meet your best friend and his wife to be and maybe some other poeple. Also, ask your best friend’s fiance to invite her to the bridal shower. This way, she can get to know a few people by sight and be able to have some conversation with them.
Good luck.
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By Kate on May 30, 2010
If she’ll be stuck alone all night don’t do it. I’ve been in that situation and it really sucks.
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By CC on May 30, 2010
This is up to the bride and groom only. Usually if guests have serious significant others, then they’re allowed dates. This will be indicated with "Your Name and Guest" on the invitation.
However, if the person does not have a serious significant other, and would just be bringing a date for the heck of it, then most brides and grooms wouldn’t put "and guest" on the invitation. Just because they don’t know this person, and they have to pay for their meal.
If our best man wasn’t in a serious relationship, we wouldn’t put "and guest" on the invite. He would know enough people there to mingle and not feel out of place. The guest would just extra, and honestly, we don’t want to pay for the meal if we don’t know the person.
But we’re having a smaller wedding with 70 people max.
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By SChi25 on May 30, 2010
That is up to you. I’m sure that the other groomsmen will have dates there and they usually sit all together, But your best bet would be to ask the bride and groom.
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By grammie on May 30, 2010
If she knows the bride and groom, then yes. Otherwise, she can have the day to herself to get things done and can spend more time with you the following weekend. Just ask her if she wants to go…
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By Lynn on May 30, 2010
Yeah, I would ask the bride and groom if they would mind. But also, you should try to bring her around them when you guys get together to help her get to know them and the rest of your friends and family.
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By hearts33 on May 30, 2010
First you need to find out if you are invited to bring a guest. Either ask the groom or wait for your invitation – if it says "Joe and Guest" you are welcome to invite someone. If it says "Joe," you should not bring another person.
Honestly, I wouldn’t have much fun at a wedding in that situation – knowing no one, sitting alone. And you’re going to feel like you have to entertain her when really you want to celebrate with your friends.
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By truefirstedition on May 30, 2010
If the bride and groom say OK, then ask your potential date! Let her know that you will be sitting with the bridal party and that she is more than welcome to come to the wedding, but if she feels uncomfortable, you understand. Too easy!
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By calina on May 30, 2010
since she doesn’t know anyone it might be uncomfortable to her, but I would say it’s just up to you and your potential date
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By salsajess on May 30, 2010
Your invitations will state either your name alone or your name and guest, which would mean you are free to bring a guest. If it’s just your name, you go without a date.
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By Kristy on May 30, 2010
You don’t have to bring a date, but it could be fun. You would have someone to dance with too. But if she doesn’t know anyone and she is shy, I would recommend that you bring her around to introduce her to people so she doesn’t feel alone. And sitting by herself could be embarassing or uncomfortable for her. If you bring her, don’t let her fend for herself all night! Unless she is very good at walking up to people and starting conversations. Good luck!
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By Bride to Be on May 30, 2010
No, you are supposed to look lonely and unloved to shocase and not detract from the couple.
What baloney.
Bring a date, have fun, have her sit right next to you and not by herself.
Lighten up a bit and stick up for her.
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By Casra on May 30, 2010