BEST MAN SPEECH ARRRRRRR ? ? ? HELP ME PLEASE?
September 1, 2010
HEY im best man for my brothr any pointers on making a speech what to say what jokes to crack ?
OK… Take a deep breath… We can get you through this.
I’ve written an article on my website The Doomed Groom that gives advice on how to give a really good best man speech. In it, there are several big pointers, namely:
- Make sure you write it well beforehand. That way you can edit it down and really make sure that what you want to say is being communicated.
- Re-write it. Sure, you may think that what you’ve got is perfect. It’s not. Give it another pass and make sure that all the fat is cut and that it’s as clean and streamlined as you can make it.
- Memorize it. SERIOUSLY. This is an absolute must. There is nothing more painful than watching some poor guy stand up at the dais and "Ummm" and "Uhhhhh" for ten minutes while he’s trying to remember what he wanted to say. Trust me, the time you invest in memorizing the speech will more than make up for itself in the response you get from the audience.
- A little liquid courage. OK, I didn’t tell you this… But, it might be a good idea to get a drink in you. MIGHT be a good idea. Something to take a little bit of the edge off. Just make sure that you don’t have too much. That’ll just make you sloppy and people will be laughing for a completely different (not so good) reason. (This also assumes that you are of legal drinking age.)
As for jokes — that’s really tough. I always think that funny stories are a lot more effective than "jokes." I think the audience is going to be a lot more receptive to listening to you speak about a funny situation that happened with the two of you than listening to a bunch of gags strung together. The main thing is, though — have a theme or point. Start from what you want to say about him as a person, brother, husband, etc., then make sure that the funny story comes from there.
As an example, in my article (which I’ve sited below) you will find the speech my best man gave me at my wedding. To this day, the people who were there still consider it to be one of the best toasts they’ve ever heard. You will see — first of all, that it was written beforehand and then memorized — but also that he crafted the humor to really say something from his heart about my wife and I. If you start from there, you really can’t go wrong.
I hope this helps!
From 1990 Album: “Fear Of A Black Planet”. Song first appeared on the 1989 Soundtrack: “Do The Right Thing”…..